Raise your hand if you have ever been stuck. I don’t mean that you’ve gotten your foot stuck or been stuck in traffic. I mean stuck in life. It’s that place in life where you know you need to take some action for change, but you are too comfortable where you are. You are used to what you know. It seems like it might be too much work to take action – and it might be too scary, too. We humans like comfort. If something seems too difficult, we are going to just stay where we are, right?
Looking back on 2017, I believe I was stuck. For me, I knew that I needed to change jobs. I had been in my job for a long time. I really liked my job and I did my job well. I was at the top of that job ladder, and I just needed to do something different. I needed personal growth.
On January 3, 2018, I took my first step. I checked the job postings at my place of employment. I had already received word that there would be some job postings in the new year that I would be interesting in applying. After taking that first step, I felt good. The posting I was looking for was not up yet, but I felt good for taking that first step.
When I took that first step toward change, it set everything in motion. The instant gratification I got from taking that step was relief that I finally did it, but mostly empowerment. Empowerment that I finally did something about being stuck. The first step turned in a second. I checked the job boards daily. The second step turned into a third. I checked the postings for other jobs that might be interesting.
In March, I had a new problem. The job board had three postings that were interesting, and I had to choose which one to apply. I could apply for the original job I was waiting for, a job I had previously applied for, or a totally different job. After thinking about the different jobs and weighing the pros and cons, I decided that if I was going to really make some change, I was going to apply for the totally different job. I was going for a new experience.
Once the decision was made, I submitted the application. I no longer felt stuck. I felt great! I was hopeful and excited. I was creating the change for myself.
Whether or not, I got the job, I was reminded of some valuable lessons along the way. I was reminded that by remaining stuck, I was not growing as a person. I was reminded that the change I create for myself is more often, by far, better than any change created for me by my inactions. Whether I act or not is a decision by itself.
If you are still reading this, thank you for sticking with my story. Let me ask you some questions. Are you stuck? Do you have a goal that just feels too far away? Does any action seem too big or too scary?
If the answer is yes to any of those questions, think about your goal. What change do you want to make for yourself? Do you want to take a class to learn something new? Do you want to declutter your house? Do you want to run a 5k or a marathon? It’s your change and it’s your goal.
We live the best version of ourselves one step at a time.